We live in stressful times. Nowadays it’s easy to find an article or a social media post talking about the coronavirus outbreak and how bad it is.
Even if that’s true, you need to remember that YOU CAN protect yourself from this all-encompassing negativity. You don’t have to listen to the news or read anything that makes you scared out of your mind. Remember that you are more capable of staying focused on your inner peace than you give yourself credit.
Bad world events don’t make you less than what you are. You are powerful beyond comprehension. You are not your mind nor your thinking.
You are God (therefore, the Creator of the world) and you came to this world to taste ice cream, smoke cigarettes, kiss, make love, babies, money, and art. And maybe learn a lesson or two about who you really are and how you can become more aware of your inner worth.
You were born here to learn how to expand your mind and let go of the most destructive human emotion: fear.
Fear and shame are considered the lowest emotions on the scale of consciousness. Psychiatrist David R. Hawkins lists 17 human emotions (corresponding to 17 levels of consciousness) from the lowest and most destructive, to the most helpful and beneficial.
Here’s a chart:
Fear has the power to drive people mad and destroy relationships. Fear stops a person from asking his crush on a date. Fear will cause debt, unemployment, drug abuse, verbal and emotional abuse and a lot of heartache. Fear is why you can’t make a monthly budget or save a hundred a month.
Fearful people create insurmountable obstacles against their dreams. They rationalize this fear by telling themselves that it’s too difficult to get what they want and they don’t have what it takes.
However, if you let go of fear for just 10 minutes a day and give yourself the gift of sitting quietly and visualizing positive outcomes, I promise you that you’ll feel stronger. There are many benefits to meditation. Lower stress and anxiety are a few of them.
Remember that you have the power to control your body and your mind. When you become aware that you are indeed in control, you can see anxiety melting away. Don’t let anybody tell you that you’re not in control. You have always been in control of how the world works. You just didn’t know it.
The outside world plays on scarcity & fear
It is very easy to be focused on the ‘outside’ and not the ‘inside’. Being outside, in the world is convenient because other people can tell you what to think and feel. You don’t have to make any effort for it.
Almost everywhere you go, you will definitely stumble upon:
-devastating news & events
-people who hate their jobs
-people addicted to alcohol or drugs
-ads that tell you you’re not that healthy, or attractive, or strong
-people hating on the rich and successful (thus, hating the money they earn)
-people criticizing those who’re better off
-people criticizing those who are different
-division, division, division
and so on.
But I have news for you! The outside world is not independent from you.
The outside is a representation of the fears and anxieties you have developed as a result of your past programming.
If you realize that you have created the ‘outside world’ through your fear, shame, and anxiety that may have been implemented by your parents, teachers or caretakers you might have a chance of realizing that YOU CAN change the outside world. (because you have created it)
You can do that by repainting the decorum of your inner reality with brighter colors.
How To Change The Inside World To Become More Abundant
1. Accept the outside world (and understand that you have created it through your anxiety.)
It is OK to do this. You are not perfect. While living on this earth, you’re imperfect and sometimes you do things that hurt you and limit you. (or others) Don’t criticize yourself for the debt you have, the boss you hate or the boyfriend who makes you feel like crap.
You are doing the best you can with the limited resources you’ve acquired during your childhood. Know that you can shift instantly to an abundant and confident version if you WANT TO. You are not stuck and you never were.
2. Stop reacting to the outside world
Reacting to outside events is by far, the most destructive behavior. Why? Because once you react to a negative event, your subconscious mind will bring more events like that in your reality (like attracts like or the law of attraction). Is it easy to stop dwelling on the bad things you have going on? That’s far from easy. It’s like trying to build bulk muscles on a skinny ballerina arm.
That’s because you were trained since kindergarten to react negatively to bad events by your parents, the news, school, peers, the environment, and so on. You can anyway start small. You can observe your behavior each time someone gives you negative news. Stop and pause for a bit and ask yourself: is getting anxious or angry going to help the situation? Nope.
Emotions never help you, they’re actually doing the opposite. Negative emotions like rage, for example, block your reasoning. Thus, when you become enraged, you’re less likely to make sound life decisions. This can be changed by pausing the thinking and deciding to observe the thoughts you have. Observing the thoughts is powerful because it’s going to help you delay the negative response.
3. Never go a day without meditation
Meditation is a powerful mental health practice. Studies showed its effectiveness in reducing stress and anxiety. From personal experience, I can say that meditation helped delay the bodily response to the panic thoughts I had.
Whenever I had panic attacks, I’d get a bodily response to the panicky thought-my pulse would start racing, my feet would become jelly and my breathing shallow. That was my usual physical response to panic.
However, after sitting in silence during a group meditation practice, I learned how to delay the panic. In the end, I stopped the thought and feeling of panic altogether. How?
I just accepted the fact that I had panic attacks. I didn’t avoid my bodily sensations (most anxiety sufferers avoid their feelings like the plague-they rather drink snake juice than sitting through overwhelming anxiety), stood with them in silence as if they were some old friends I haven’t talked to in a while and let them go. I learned an important life lesson-that, unpleasant bodily sensations and negative emotions are not harmful. They can even be pleasant.
One time I even started to cry when I let go of the fear of the feelings. It was the most liberating thing I ever did. Other people have overcome their panic attacks through mediation too. Read more about it here.
4. Consume ONLY high-vibration teachings, information, and programs
Becoming abundant means to indulge in the limitless amounts of good and helpful information out there. There is so much good in the world that it’s hard to quantify it. Good information is everywhere. Just look on YouTube! Type in the words law of attraction or your subconscious mind and you’ll find plenty of expert material on the subject.
Napoleon Hill urged the readers of his book, ‘Outwitting The Devil’ to consume only empowering information and block all negativity from their awareness. Why? Because, when your mind is relaxed due to not having to fight the negativity of the world’s most tragic events, it can show you ways to improve your skills and achieve your hard-pressing goals.
5. Surround yourself with positive and well-meaning people
Good people are everywhere if you choose to see them.
It’s not that good people are scarce but that you unconsciously avoid them or choose to push them away. Why?
Childhood trauma (or any kind of trauma) makes one wary of being around people. After going through trauma, you develop a limiting belief where the world is not safe and people are out there to get you.
It’s beneficial if you talked to a specialist regarding your trauma. They’ll help you come up with new beliefs that empower you. Beliefs that will open you up to the good in the world: good news, good events, good people, good circumstances.
6. Drop all unhealthy relationships
We have all been through unhealthy relationships at one point in our lives. However, some of us dwell on them for a huge part of their lives. It’s not like they don’t want to be in happy and healthy relationships but they don’t know HOW.
When you’ve been abused as a child, you have a broken ‘relationship picker’. Meaning that, you don’t know how to choose healthy people who make you feel good. Instead, you choose to hang around toxic people who recreate the environment you’ve lived in as a child. Why?
Because you want to change that part of your childhood by changing the toxic people you’re involved with. In the case you’re successful in this regard, you’ve convinced your brain that your childhood (including your parents) CAN be changed. And your suffering wasn’t in vain.
But this is the wrong way to go about relationships. You should enter relationships to experience joy and learn lessons about who you are and how capable you are of unconditional love. Wanting to change your parents by dating an abusive man (or woman) is not healthy.
Moreover, keeping unhealthy relationships in your life decreases your immunity. In a Whitehall II study, the researchers found that those involved in toxic relationships were at a greater risk of developing a heart attack or stroke due to their elevated stress and anxiety levels.
Beware of the risks of hanging out with critical and highly-negative people and do your best to limit the interactions with them.
7. Do a job that’s meaningful and that helps others change and evolve
In a study, it was discovered that more than 10 million of Britts were unhappy with their jobs. Going to a job you hate has negative mental health consequences. The wear and tear of dragging your feet to the office day after day is gonna affect you.
The solution is, to be frank with yourself and accept the fact that your job stinks. Find out which job doesn’t stink and can even make you happy to wake up with an alarm each morning at 7 am. The best advice I’ve heard about finding your dream job or career is to reflect on the type of work you’d do for free. If you had all the money in the world, what kind of job you’d love doing without being paid?
The most successful people do work they truly love and enjoy. They get so focused on creating something of value for others (either a business or a work of art) that they forget they’re actually working.
This is what experts call the ‘flow state’. When you’re in a state of flow, you know that your life has a purpose and what you’re doing for money has meaning and helps other people.
8. Acknowledge and express your negative emotions
Negative emotions are powerful motivators. They really drive our behaviors. We talked about fear before and acknowledged the negative influence of this emotion over our lives. However, what’s worse than dwelling on a negative emotion and expressing it is suppressing a negative emotion.
When you suffocate the expression of fear, guilt, shame or anger, you create blocks in your subconscious mind. These blocks will stop you from thinking positively and from achieving inner peace and calm.
Avoiding feeling the negative emotions is done through the use of alcohol, drugs, food, unhealthy relationships, gambling and so on.
Why is it bad to avoid my feelings?
Suppressed emotions cause anxiety, stress and a feeling of restlessness in the body. Stress is often linked to illness or mental illness. Thus, by avoiding facing your ‘demons’, you end up suffering from different ailments.
9. Understand that money is energy (and if you can’t handle your own energy you can’t handle money)
Money is a part of life and no one should be without money. However, those who have a poor relationship with money, either have little money to show for or earn a lot but spend everything really fast our of fear or concern.
Until you understand the fact that money is energy and in order to handle its energy you need to enter a relationship with it you’re not going to have plenty.
Being in a relationship with money is unheard of for some people. However, it’s not like you’re going to ask money to marry you or something. Creating a relationship with money starts with understanding money and ALL aspects of money. You need to understand your thoughts about money, your limiting beliefs about money, what is money to you, and to associate money with pleasant and joyful experiences.
If you don’t know how much you earn, if you fail to save or stick to a budget, if you avoid your bills or your bank account statements, you’re not gonna go far. If this is too much information, ask help from a financial coach or advisor.
Try to find someone with a background in Psychology because they’ll approach your money problems from a psychological perspective (all our money issues have roots in our psychology).
10. Love yourself by being there for yourself
This advice is overused by coaches nowadays. Loving yourself is important to create loving relationships. But when it comes to money and abundance, self-love is crucial. Why? When you love yourself, you see yourself worthy of earning good money. And you put yourself in situations where potential employers offer you high-paying jobs and opportunities because they see you have high-value skills.
When you don’t love yourself enough you either work for peanuts doing what you love or earn good money doing work that irritates you. (or something in between these two)
The idea is to have enough self-love and self-respect to demand respect, appreciation and a great income from employers who see your worth (and are lucky to have you on their team)
11. Understand that we are not many, we’re ONE
In the words of Allan Watts, we’re all one.
The philosopher believes that the human being is an expression of the Universe or the Cosmos. The way we see the world is a way for the Universe to see and experience the physicality of the world. In philosophical terms, this is called ‘monism‘. Monism is a concept that denies separateness and diversity. It assumes that all individuals are extensions of the same Universe that exists all at once in different places and different time periods.
Watts criticized the theory of duality that says that there is a clear separation between individual objects. He held onto his belief that, at our core, we are our true self, which is ‘God’ or ‘One’ and this entity is perceiving itself through different people and experiences.
If it’s true that we are the ‘One’, then nothing that happens in the world to distract us from our ‘oneness’ should bother us. If we understand that we are the same no matter our skin color, language, culture, financial status, personality or physical appearance, we should never do something hurtful to another-because, by hurting others we’ll hurt ourselves.
All in all, becoming abundant and feeling worthy of money and abundance is more than just doing meditation and drawing a smile on our face.
It’s a long process of shedding our old identity where we felt like there is scarcity in the world, and that the world has nothing to do with us-and with who we were before we were born.
I’ll leave you with a video where Alan Watts shares his wisdom with the viewers. This video itself is bound to make you feel more abundant.
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